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Our Story
I’m happy to tell everyone that it’s official, Tami said yes. Tami and I have been friends since I flew down to visit our mutual friend Michelle at Kansas State University. Over the weekend I was blessed to meet lots of great people from the KSU young group. Well, this story is about a special one ;) Tami and I clicked as friends and stayed in touch through emails, mutually attended young group trips, and her occasional visits to Michelle in Michigan.

I certainly appreciated her friendship, but it turned out that God had something else in mind for the two of us. When I went to Cissna Park in November of 2006, something clicked inside of me that Tami was the person that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. However for good reason, I wanted to spend a bit of time thinking and praying about that decision. After a few months I was feeling absolutely convinced, but then God threw another huge life changing event on my plate.

I was baptized on January 28, 2007. The night before I noticed that the lymph node on my right side was swollen. I went to have it checked out and it turned out to be Hodgkin’s Lymphoma, a cancer of the lymph node. This threw off a lot of plans in my life, including temporarily my plans to propose to Tami. Fortunately, it turns out that 1) Hodgkin’s lymphoma is a very treatable cancer and 2) God wanted Tami involved in this chapter of my life.

On March 22, 2007 I decided to propose to Tami. Since the story switches over to her perspective here, I’ll let her tell it....

So…my turn! The obvious place to start is where Dan left off with his marriage proposal to me, but I’d like to venture back a few years first to provide a little background for those of you who may not know me. Several circumstances happened to me and girl friends of mine that God used to teach me a valuable lesson on guarding my heart & trusting my future and all relationships (including a potential future spouse) to Him. At age 21, I set out on a journey to know Jesus Christ as fully and completely as He would allow me to while yet on this earth and in doing so, He taught me a great deal about my worth and beauty in His eyes as a daughter of the King. I was (and continue to be!) very satisfied and complete in His love and the purposes He has laid on my heart. My life’s motto became the words of Christ in John 17:4 “I have glorified thee on the earth: I have finished the work which thou gavest me to do.” God set my course to draw nearer to Him and while doing so, He has sent many wonderful people across my path (including Dan!). Some relationships have matured and lasted and some were brief, but one thing He taught me is that none of my relationships were really mine to own, but His to bless me and through which to teach and refine me to be more like His Son. That being said, 4 years later I was still fully content serving my King in the singleness which He had gifted me. I was experiencing plenty of fun & fulfillment doing His work and seeking to glorify Him, even through some very difficult moments such as a special cousin’s death.

Enter Dan - a past relationship changed into a beautiful new one for the future. At age 22 I met Dan, who, seemingly without effort, became a trusted Christian male friend through whom I got to witness fresh faith and fresh passion for Jesus Christ! Many people ask me, did you like him from the beginning. Well, yes, I sure did, but in a “mindy-likes-dan” type of way as my good friend Mindy aptly described her early impression of spending 24 hours traveling to Kansas with Dan, then my relatively new fiancé! I was not searching for a romantic relationship during my years of friendship with Dan; therefore I never entertained thoughts of liking him (or evaluating whether or not he liked me) more than a friend in Christ.

How then did I react when I learned that he did indeed like me more than just a friend and felt directed from God to propose marriage and merge our separate futures into one? My reaction had two dimensions: 1) I was wowed and completely humbled that Dan was attracted to me & respected me enough to propose marriage! and 2) I needed about 2 weeks to search the heart of God and discover if He was truly asking me to surrender my gift of singleness to serve Him alongside Dan and let Dan have my heart. 2 ½ weeks & many prayers later (my own as well as my family’s and special friends’), as well as spending much time in God’s Word, I knew that my answer from God was yes to both marriage AND Dan! My heart eagerly responded with affirming love beyond (but firmly built upon) my original trust & friendship with Dan and now I am excitedly watching God miraculously merge our lives. I am enjoying sharing our engagement at present and quite thankful that Dan trusted God and me enough to invite me into his life during his current battle with cancer and I excitedly anticipate sharing the rest of our future together as well!

In summary, I shall quote Isaiah 41:20 “That they may see, and know, and consider, and understand together, that the hand of the LORD hath done this, and the Holy One of Israel hath created it.” I truly believe that God has been growing and refining both Dan and I for this exciting merging of paths for His ultimate purpose and our joy and I feel so blessed!

The lyrics to A Page is Turned by Bebo Norman has been a special one for us:

A page is turned by the wind to a boy in curly grin
With a world to conquer at the age of ten
But as history unfolds and the storybook is told
He finds salvation but not at the hands of man

And the God of second chance
Picked him up and He let him dance
Through a world that is not kind
And all this time, preparing him, the one
To hold him up when he comes undone
Beneath the storm, beneath the sun
And now a man, here you stand
Your day has come

A page is turned in this world to reveal a little girl
With a heart that's bigger, as it is unfurled
By the language in her soul, that's teaching her to grow
With a careful cover of love that will not fail

And the God of second chance
Picked her up and He let her dance
Through a world that isn't kind
And all this time, preparing her the one
To hold her up when she comes undone
Beneath the storm, beneath the sun
And grown up tall, here you are
Your day has come

Beneath the air of autumn, she took him by his hand
And warm within the ardor, she took his heart instead
And high upon the mountain, he asked her for her hand
Just for her hand

A page is turned in this life, he's making her his wife
And there is no secret to the source of this much life
When the grace that falls like rain is washing them again
Just a chance to somehow rise above this land

Where the God of second chance
Will pick them up and he'll let them dance
Through a world that is not kind
And all this time, they're sharing with the one
That holds them up when they come undone
Beneath the storm, beneath the sun
And once again, here you stand
And once again, here you stand
Your day has come.

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